Around
the time when Steven Curtis Chapman thought his kids' bedrooms would become
guest rooms, his family suddenly needed three nurseries.
Now,
at 41 years of age, the singer adds good night hugs and under-the-bed monster
checks to his nightly routine. His wife Mary Beth also finds herself doing things
she didn't expect at this stage of life, like reading bedtime stories and making
sure that one plus one still equals two. The Chapmans' house once again has
bare feet slapping the floors, sticky fingers leaving smudges on the walls,
and volumes of laundry filling the hampers. "Kid food" (the kind that comes
in boxes with vignettes of superheroes and cartoon characters caught mid-adventure)
crowds the cupboards. And, instead of decorative pillows and chenille throws,
blankies and assorted stuffed animals add a special touch to the living room
decor.
Only
God could have convinced Steven and Mary Beth to adopt three orphan girls from
China and subject their house to such treatment for a second time. He began
to speak to them through the prayers of their oldest daughter, Emily, who came
home from a mission trip to Haiti asking for an adopted little sister. At first
Steven and Mary Beth assumed it was just a phase, like the child who begs for
puppy each Christmas, but loses interest in it once the pet is acquired. But
two years later, Emily was still pleading with her parents to adopt.
However,
Steven and Mary Beth did not decide on adoption merely because their daughter
insisted on having a little sister; their actions resulted from searching God's
Word. They were confronted with the challenge of James 1:27
—"Religion
that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans
and widows in their distress. . ." (NIV)
In
March of 2000, they took a flight to China to adopt a baby girl named Shaohannah
Hope. From the moment of their first embrace, Shaoey brought the Chapmans abundant
blessings, including the confidence and desire to adopt again. Stevey Joy joined
the family in May of 2003, and Maria arrived in July of this year.
The
desire to adopt Shaoey, Stevey, and Maria (now ages 6, 3, and 1 respectively)
came from Steven's love for people and a longing to see them know Christ. "The
bottom line of adoption is that it is the greatest tool of evangelism God ever
gave us," he says. "If you want to know that you have been a part of leading
someone to an eternal relationship with their heavenly Father, you bring them
into your home, you love them, you walk through every part of life with them."
The
events of the past seven years have convinced Steven that adoption is one of
the most compelling pictures of the Gospel. Scripture shows us clearly how,
through Christ, we are adopted into God's family as His beloved children. In
Romans 8:15-17, Paul explains that we can come to the Lord and cry "Abba!
Father!"
because we "have received a spirit of adoption as sons." For Steven, physical
adoption has provided a platform to share with others about his own spiritual
adoption.
But
why would God call a couple who already had three biological children to adopt?
"For us, I think it was really a response to the Gospel. It was a response to
the love of God," which seems to be something Steven, a self-professed "recovering
legalist," always struggled to comprehend.
It
was this love that compelled him to become involved in adoption in the first
place. "We can respond to God's great love for us by doing something that is
a 'visible Gospel' to the world around us." Such visible demonstration shouldn't
be difficult for a performer who has sold 9 million albums and received more
than 50 music awards. But Steven's intense faith pushed him outside of his comfort
zone.
He
admits there were times he doubted God's direction. He wondered if it was wise
to bring another baby into the family, considering the organized chaos in which
they already lived and the serious depression his wife battled. "This was a
big leap of faith for us, and I was scared to death," recalls Mary Beth. "Would
I be able to love this child as much as my biological kids? . . . Am I not going
to feel the same emotion? How am I going to deal with that?"
But
God worked in their hearts, and they were soon willing to trust Him. Steven
recalls God's message to him: "I will reveal Myself to you in ways that you
won't ever really experience unless you go to those places where I said you
would find Me—I said you would find Me if you clothe the naked and care
for orphans and widows."
The
Chapmans still marvel at how God chose to show Himself amidst the diapers and
squeaky toys of three lively little girls—especially since Emily (now
18), who started the whole thing, is going to college and sons Caleb, 15, and
Will Franklin, 13, are not far behind. Steven and Mary Beth call the reappearance
of bottles and burp cloths "phase two" of parenting and often apologize to their
older children for all the mistakes they made during phase one.
These
days, an older and wiser Steven is convinced that everyone needs to care for
orphans in some way. Even the simple act of supporting a friend in prayer can
be extremely effective and, in fact, crucial.
Steven
hopes that both churches and individuals will join together to rescue the world's
millions of orphans from a life without Christ, one child at a time. "The miracle
of adoption is that it makes us be what we are supposed to be—the body
of Christ," he says. "It brings so much delight to the heart of God when He
sees us working together, loving each other, encouraging each other."
About
once a month, other local families who have also adopted bring their little
blessings to the singer's house just outside of Nashville. Full of boundless
energy, 15-20 children spend the day laughing together and running around a
barn on the Chapmans' property.
Steven
once feared adoption would overburden his family, but Shaoey, Stevey, and Maria
have brought a renewed sense of purpose and joy to his home. No matter how much
their house suffers the scrapes of toys dragged across the floor or spilled
glue on the carpets, Steven rejoices at the thought of three more children of
God one day residing in a heavenly mansion.
Linda M. Canup
November
is National Adoption Awareness Month. For more information on Shaohannah's Hope
Foundation, visit
www.shaohannahshope.org.